This week marks two long years since I inked my first post. And it’s been fun! Although this one might be my last… at least for a while.
I started this little blog with the intention of helping struggling dads and others rethink their own financial habits and priorities to get to a place of financial stability. I also did it partly for myself. To prove to myself that I could do it. I never realized how time-consuming blogging can be or just how hard it can be to push the publish button on a post. Maybe out of habit, but to this day, I still look away from the screen when hitting “Publish”. It’s somewhat daunting. Will readers connect with it? Will they like it? But amongst all the challenges, it’s also a really rewarding experience a) when you know you’ve written a post that made YOU smile and b) when your post resonates with others. There’s nothing better than getting votes of confidence in your comment section. It’s kind of like getting all the shiny stickers on your school paper. And it’s something, as a blogger, I think each of us always look forward to.
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go”
– Herman Hesse
I often talk on the site about setting priorities and assessing what’s really important to you. And one of my big goals this year was to let go and work less. I was taking classes, working practically two jobs in addition to writing for the blog, while trying to be a son, a brother, a husband, and a daddy. Time has its limits. So I started this Spring letting go. I took on no more new classes, but I took on a better position at a new job, which allowed me to free up my nights working. And I started giving myself a week off from the blog every month and had planned to take some time off in the summer too. Then I got some news.
My father had suffered the past year from ALS and while away on business, and quite unexpectedly, I got the call that he had been rushed to the hospital. So I cut my trip short and tried to find the quickest flight out of town, which I quickly found, was no easy task. But I flew out the next day and as I flew through a mountain of clouds, I kept thinking that one of them might be him. But in the end, I did make it in time to say my final goodbyes to my own thrifty dad. It was a tough day. A tough week. A tough month. And it’s times and challenges like these that they say, sometimes make you reevaluate your own priorities. Your own journey. And it did for mine. After a while away from the blog, it’s always difficult getting back in, but the time away gave me time to pause and reflect and think.
“It is good to have an end to journey toward, but it is the journey that matters in the end”
– Ursula K. Le Guin
I met a lot of great people, and I learned a great deal. But this might be my last post for a while. I am incredibly appreciative of all my loyal readers who read and commented on my posts week-to-week and also to those new ones that are just finding me. I’ve enjoyed connecting with all of you. I enjoyed reading your posts and I enjoyed writing even more. It’s funny, even as I sit here writing this, there’s a small part of me that is saying ‘maybe just a few more posts’. And although part of it excites me, I’m more excited by the start of a new journey (and I have to admit all my free time). Where this site goes from here, I cannot say. But there’s a part of me that would like to see it maybe pass onto a new gen of thrifty dads.
But for now, I think it’s time for me to put down the pen and be a dad again.